I have recently started reading "Eat, Pray, Love" by Elizabeth Gilbert. In one part of the book she talks about her relationship with a man named David, whom she was madly in love with him. Unfortunately, her relationship with him waned as more trials entered her life. Suddenly, she was no longer the confident, passionate woman he had met. She was now clingy and needy.
What is wrong with some men that they would even think that way? I have often heard men refer to women as "clingy" and "needy". In many of these cases, I have known the women involved and know for a fact that these men are just being insensitive morons. I am not saying that such a thing does not exist, but seriously, are those terms applied sometimes to women who are just at a hard stage in their lives. Or only having a bad week? Why is she expected to be cheerful, intelligent, indulgent of her man, and physically perfect? Why can't she have a moment of being sad, hurt, tired, and perhaps lonely? Why can't she turn to her guy needing physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual comfort without being told she is asking too much and her guy is too tired to indulge her. And of course all those times she has indulged him in his vulnerability is forgotten. Suddenly, she has ceased to be interesting, intelligent, and all the things he thought she was.
A friend of mine once broke down and cried in front of her boyfriend. Instead of comforting her, he informed her that her showing that weakness of her characteristic was a real turn off. Well, I guess some men, then, prefer robots who will be all that you want with no emotions involved...except perhaps their hero worship of him. And they are welcomed to her. I personally do not need that kind of men in my life.
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