Men Wanting Emotion Robots Need Not Apply

I have recently started reading "Eat, Pray, Love" by Elizabeth Gilbert. In one part of the book she talks about her relationship with a man named David, whom she was madly in love with him. Unfortunately, her relationship with him waned as more trials entered her life. Suddenly, she was no longer the confident, passionate woman he had met. She was now clingy and needy.
What is wrong with some men that they would even think that way? I have often heard men refer to women as "clingy" and "needy". In many of these cases, I have known the women involved and know for a fact that these men are just being insensitive morons. I am not saying that such a thing does not exist, but seriously, are those terms applied sometimes to women who are just at a hard stage in their lives. Or only having a bad week? Why is she expected to be cheerful, intelligent, indulgent of her man, and physically perfect? Why can't she have a moment of being sad, hurt, tired, and perhaps lonely? Why can't she turn to her guy needing physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual comfort without being told she is asking too much and her guy is too tired to indulge her. And of course all those times she has indulged him in his vulnerability is forgotten. Suddenly, she has ceased to be interesting, intelligent, and all the things he thought she was.
A friend of mine once broke down and cried in front of her boyfriend. Instead of comforting her, he informed her that her showing that weakness of her characteristic was a real turn off. Well, I guess some men, then, prefer robots who will be all that you want with no emotions involved...except perhaps their hero worship of him. And they are welcomed to her. I personally do not need that kind of men in my life.

9 Words Women Use

I was emptying my e-mail of old mail (lets just say I’m an email pack rat) when I found this e-mail sent by my friend, Katja. I hope you get as much of a laugh out of it as I did.

9 words women use

Fine:

This is the word women use to end an argument when they are right and you need to shut up.

Five Minutes:

If she is getting dressed, this means a half an hour. Five minutes is only five minutes if you have just been given five more
minutes to watch the game before helping around the house.

Nothing:

This is the calm before the storm. This means something, and you should be on your toes.

Arguments that begin with nothing usually end in fine.

Go Ahead:

This is a dare, not permission. Don't Do It!

Loud Sigh:

This is actually a word, but is a non-verbal statement often misunderstood by men. A loud sigh means she thinks you are an idiot
and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing with you about nothing. (Refer back to #3 for the meaning of nothing.)

That's Okay:

This is one of the most dangerous statements a women can make to a man. That's okay means she wants to think long and hard before
deciding how and when you will pay for your mistake.

Thanks:

A woman is thanking you, do not question, or Faint. Just say you're welcome.

Whatever:

Is a women's way of saying Flip off!

Don't worry about it, I got it:

Another dangerous statement, meaning this is something that a woman has told a man to do several times, but is
now doing it herself. This will later result in a man asking "What's wrong?" For the woman's response refer to #3.

Allez Les Bleus...What?

I once volunteered with an organization called Les Petits Frères des Pauvres. An amazing organization that is very big in certain parts of Europe that was founded because of one man’s passion for and desires to help those less fortunate than himself. There were two parts to this organization. One part was helping the elderly in whatever way they needed help. The other part was teaching the homeless whom they had found a home for how to enjoy life. That meant whatever it took to make them appreciate all the good things that life has to offer. One of the people from this group was Jean. He was a character. And I adored him! But Jean had one obsession (okay, two if you include his love of sweets, which caused him to have his last two teeth removed, he cried--gosh he was adorable), soccer. The fortunate year that I found myself in France was during the World Cup (you have no idea how crazy people can get around that time...well...there is the superbowl, so maybe you do have an idea). Whenever there was a game, the only way I would get to spend time with Jean was if I watched them with him. He was the sweetest, calmest guy...unless he was watching soccer. Then he would scream "Allez les bleus." (go blues..cheering the french team on) or "imbecile!" It depended on what was going on with the game at the moment. And that is where my obsession with soccer started. He was contagious. Sad to say, at least sad for Jean, I no longer obsess over the game. But there are so many things to obsess over; I have to give them each their turn ;)

Second Best

I don't know why but lately it seems like I've been everyone's bottom of the pile. For example:

"I'm sorry Laureen, I can't spend time with you because after we spoke I made plans with another friend of mine. We're going..."

"I'm sorry Jules, I can't go to the gym with you, this guy..."--I know, the opposite sex usually seems to take priority over friends. Sigh...

"I'm sorry Laureen, but I would much rather be with this girl..."

"I'm sorry sweetheart, but your brother really needs me more right now."--this from my mom. My MOTHER of all people. Well, they do say the middle child is never loved. Jk :)

There's nothing like having a series of these happening that make you feel unwanted, unattractive, and unappealing (0n many levels). It makes you feel very insecure. Insecure is not something anyone should feel. I feel like a kid who is being traded off between my divorced parents who have their own lives and do not wish me around. I notice that I've been closing off. Dismissing others before they can dismiss me. And that is not who I am. I refuse to be the kind of person who is so closed off, no one can get close to her. Anyways, I decided that I needed to do something about this. Trust me when I say it's not a good feeling being last on everyone's list and not a good feeling to empty my list so that no one's there to hurt me. I want to come up with a plan to get rid of these kind of experiences and stop dwelling on self-pity. I don't know what it is yet, but as soon as I come up with it I'll let you know. Sorry this has been a bit of a sad post. But next one should be happier, especially if I am able to think of a plan :) On a lighter note, I looked up "second best" on Wikipedia and this is what It said, "The Theory of the Second Best concerns what happens when one or more optimality conditions are not satisfied in an economic model."

Mikarose

Mikarose is a company that I absolutely love because they have dresses that are pleasing to the female form, no matter what your form is. I don't know why but many companies feel that modesty equates to being frumpy. It drives me insane! I want to be modest and sexy. And you don't have to be modest to enjoy these beautiful dresses. Anyways, more leaves much to the imagination, which, I feel, creates more mystery and allure...

Life of a Traveler

I currently work full time at a children's hospital as a Clinical Laboratory Scientist (CLS) or Medical Technologist (MT). I am fortunate that in my field there is something called a traveling CLS. The way it works is that these national companies will hire me out to hospitals all over the U.S. (sometimes all over the world). They then will pay my rent, utilities, and transportation expenses (wonderful, I know). This will give me a great opportunity to travel and to budget at the same time (two things that do not usually go together). They also pay much more than a permanent position. I do not have a permanent contract with any of these companies. I do, however, have to be at the hospitals for a minimum of 13 weeks. Some hospitals are in need of someone a little longer than that, but you are aware of this before undertaking the position.
Why, you might ask, have I not participated in this phenomenal opportunity? Well, when I first started, I , unfortunately, was unaware of this advantageous traveling CLS opportunity. But now being aware, I wish to partake in this adventure.
I became aware, through a friend in the field, of some positions available in Hawaii and California. Hmm...I've always wondered what Haupia tasted like.

My mother's advice on finding The One

"As you're walking with her/him dressed in your Sunday best, make sure to go by a river and suddenly, out of the blue, push them in. If they are completely and utterly enraged, then you might consider finding yourself someone else. If they are annoyed, that's understandable. But if they laugh, that's even better. " --What can I say, I love my mom :)

Blogging

My first blog! I'm excited, not sure if I'll have anything to say anyone wants to hear, but hey, going to post anyways. Never thought I'd see the day when I was blogging.